Popular Topic: needs

How I Continue to Mess Up Being an Ally
July 1, 2020  •  Article  • 

“There, do you see?” she said. “You just did it again. It’s all about you.”

Ignorance is so humbling. 

Here I was, a proud would-be ally in the cause of racial justice. I’...

How to Find Strength During a Crisis
March 31, 2020  •  Article  • 

The other day, I was teaching a class online about how to cultivate more empathy and compassion for ourselves.
There are so many obstacles that can make it hard to find tenderness for ourselves. ...

Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations
December 30, 2019  •  Article  • 

There is a saying in many spiritual traditions, “Only speak if you can improve upon the silence.” Personally, there are plenty of times when I’d rather simply be quiet. There’s also a time and a place to ...

Four Questions To Ask Yourself Before Speaking
October 29, 2019  •  Article  • 

There is a saying in many spiritual traditions, “Only speak if you can ...

Restoring the Flow of Gifting in Community
April 11, 2019  •  Article  • 

fountain water

A little over a year ago I wrote a piece about how humans, historically, have broken off from the flow ...

NVC and Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy
December 10, 2018  •  Article  • 

Part 2 - I Need You. 

In the context of a healing ceremony or therapy session, psychedelic journeys amplify the unresolved issues from childhood, although it can be hard to remember that and make sense of things during a psychedelic journey. Making the connections between ...

“The Zero Step:  What we do before we open our mouths influences what happens next!
March 19, 2018  •  Article  • 
“Know what you want before you open your mouth.” -Marshall Rosenberg, developer of Nonviolent Communication
Why Do I Feel Depressed?
April 3, 2018  •  Article  • 

I feel depressed because I have a human need that is not being attended to. It’s hard to argue with this conclusion. The only thing is, there is much more to the story than this statement alludes to, and we will miss the mark entirely if the prevailing ...

Let it RAIN!
February 14, 2017  •  Article  • 
For me, remembering the distinction between needs and strategies supports well-being because it goes to the root of suffering.  To clarify what I mean, consider this example I heard at a recent workshop:  "When I need empathy and understanding I want to rely on my mate.  There ...
Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change
January 1, 2017  •  Article  • 
It’s been several years since Marshall Rosenberg’s death, the much loved author of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life and founder of the Center for Nonviolent Communication. Rosenberg could easily be described as a man who expressed profound radical insights that could significantly change lives. People ...
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