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Womens Empowerment and Advocacy in Guatemala
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March 10, 2018  •  Article  
Some highlights from my sharing of Nonviolent Communication in Guatemala in 2015.

Womens Empowerment and Advocacy in Guatemala

Womens Empowerment and Advocacy in Guatemala
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March 10, 2018  •  Article  • 
Some highlights from my sharing of Nonviolent Communication in Guatemala in 2015.
Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous
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March 3, 2018  •  Article  
For both seasoned and new NVC aficionados, I think many would agree that the word ‘empathy’ typically becomes central to one’s understanding of what NVC is all about. One might even argue that empathy is itself synonymous with NVC. The beauty of this strong pairing…

Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous

Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous
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March 3, 2018  •  Article  • 
For both seasoned and new NVC aficionados, I think many would agree that the word ‘empathy’ typically becomes central to one’s understanding of what NVC is all about. One might even argue that empathy is itself synonymous with NVC. The beauty of this strong pairing…
The Three Stages of Change
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February 27, 2018  •  Article  
Fall says CHANGE to me! Its changing colors, and the changing light as the days so obviously become shorter. I start to notice an inner call for greater focus on the state of my life and work.This happens every year for me — partly due…

The Three Stages of Change

The Three Stages of Change
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February 27, 2018  •  Article  • 
Fall says CHANGE to me! Its changing colors, and the changing light as the days so obviously become shorter. I start to notice an inner call for greater focus on the state of my life and work.This happens every year for me — partly due…
NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over
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February 21, 2018  •  Article  
Last year, Mary Mackenzie of the NVC Academy (NVCA) organized an online symposium Removing Our Blinders: Seeing the Impact of Power and Privilege that I consider courageous and visionary. The symposium offered an opportunity for those of European background, men, women, and people of color…

NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over

NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over
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February 21, 2018  •  Article  • 
Last year, Mary Mackenzie of the NVC Academy (NVCA) organized an online symposium Removing Our Blinders: Seeing the Impact of Power and Privilege that I consider courageous and visionary. The symposium offered an opportunity for those of European background, men, women, and people of color…
Let it RAIN!
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February 14, 2017  •  Article  
For me, remembering the distinction between needs and strategies supports well-being because it goes to the root of suffering.  To clarify what I mean, consider this example I heard at a recent workshop:  "When I need empathy and understanding I want to rely on my…

Let it RAIN!

Let it RAIN!
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February 14, 2017  •  Article  • 
For me, remembering the distinction between needs and strategies supports well-being because it goes to the root of suffering.  To clarify what I mean, consider this example I heard at a recent workshop:  "When I need empathy and understanding I want to rely on my…
A Message from Botswana
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February 5, 2018  •  Article  
In Botswana this week, I have shared nonviolent communication and leadership training in two secondary schools, with university students, and with teens who attended a parenting class. This is a country that has a median age of 26. I've been reflecting on how, throughout the…

A Message from Botswana

A Message from Botswana
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February 5, 2018  •  Article  • 
In Botswana this week, I have shared nonviolent communication and leadership training in two secondary schools, with university students, and with teens who attended a parenting class. This is a country that has a median age of 26. I've been reflecting on how, throughout the…
A Love Song for our Hearts
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January 30, 2018  •  Article  
Long ago, when I was 19 years old, I was in my college cafeteria, going through the buffet line with my tray. A young man in my German class, a person that I had admired, asked if he could speak with me for a moment.…

A Love Song for our Hearts

A Love Song for our Hearts
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January 30, 2018  •  Article  • 
Long ago, when I was 19 years old, I was in my college cafeteria, going through the buffet line with my tray. A young man in my German class, a person that I had admired, asked if he could speak with me for a moment.…
Making Peace with Our Loyal Soldiers
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  
I often speak and write about how falling in love with yourself is a crucial element of building great relationships with others. Falling in love with yourself means embracing all aspects of yourself (including the disowned parts in your shadow), doing what you love, following your…

Making Peace with Our Loyal Soldiers

Making Peace with Our Loyal Soldiers
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  • 
I often speak and write about how falling in love with yourself is a crucial element of building great relationships with others. Falling in love with yourself means embracing all aspects of yourself (including the disowned parts in your shadow), doing what you love, following your…
The Shadow Side of Autonomy
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January 20, 2018  •  Article  
Autonomy .. it's a word that carries a lot of currency. And certainly in the part of the world where I live (North America), it's considered both an inalienable right and a sign of achievement if a person is living a self-designed life. I have…

The Shadow Side of Autonomy

The Shadow Side of Autonomy
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January 20, 2018  •  Article  • 
Autonomy .. it's a word that carries a lot of currency. And certainly in the part of the world where I live (North America), it's considered both an inalienable right and a sign of achievement if a person is living a self-designed life. I have…
Kitty Empathy
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January 15, 2018  •  Article  
Awhile ago, I passed by an ASPCA van, with cats up for adoption. I went over to take a look and fell in love with a cat called Caiden. I love Irish names, so he caught my attention. I already had two cats at home…

Kitty Empathy

Kitty Empathy
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January 15, 2018  •  Article  • 
Awhile ago, I passed by an ASPCA van, with cats up for adoption. I went over to take a look and fell in love with a cat called Caiden. I love Irish names, so he caught my attention. I already had two cats at home…
Healing Beyond Borders
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January 10, 2018  •  Article  
For the past several months, I’ve been thinking about and supporting others in taking steps towards healing the seemingly uncomfortable divide between people – our families, communities, countries and others in the world. It can seem so hard to even open a conversation about our…

Healing Beyond Borders

Healing Beyond Borders
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January 10, 2018  •  Article  • 
For the past several months, I’ve been thinking about and supporting others in taking steps towards healing the seemingly uncomfortable divide between people – our families, communities, countries and others in the world. It can seem so hard to even open a conversation about our…
Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  
What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart. -Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.Can you imagine that?  What would the world be like if there was flow between all of us based on…

Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving

Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  • 
What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart. -Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.Can you imagine that?  What would the world be like if there was flow between all of us based on…
What Would Your Parents Say if They Were Making a Repair with You?
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December 15, 2017  •  Article  
Every time I learn something new about empathy or attachment, I have to mourn that I didn't know it before. Since my whole focus is learning about empathy and attachment, there is a lot of mourning. Some of the books I have, I have to…

What Would Your Parents Say if They Were Making a Repair with You?

What Would Your Parents Say if They Were Making a Repair with You?
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December 15, 2017  •  Article  • 
Every time I learn something new about empathy or attachment, I have to mourn that I didn't know it before. Since my whole focus is learning about empathy and attachment, there is a lot of mourning. Some of the books I have, I have to…
Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change
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January 1, 2017  •  Article  
It’s been several years since Marshall Rosenberg’s death, the much loved author of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life and founder of the Center for Nonviolent Communication. Rosenberg could easily be described as a man who expressed profound radical insights that could significantly change lives.…

Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change
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January 1, 2017  •  Article  • 
It’s been several years since Marshall Rosenberg’s death, the much loved author of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life and founder of the Center for Nonviolent Communication. Rosenberg could easily be described as a man who expressed profound radical insights that could significantly change lives.…
A World Where Empathy for One Another is the Norm
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December 2, 2017  •  Article  
I recently read an article by Dan Rather called, Why America Needs More Empathy. It touched me because he reminded me of what my parents taught me about helping other people.

A World Where Empathy for One Another is the Norm

A World Where Empathy for One Another is the Norm
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December 2, 2017  •  Article  • 
I recently read an article by Dan Rather called, Why America Needs More Empathy. It touched me because he reminded me of what my parents taught me about helping other people.
Expanding Our Capacity to Love
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January 1, 2017  •  Article  
What if we came to this world to expand our capacity to love? What if we had to forget where we came from in order to fulfill that quest, like water evaporating from the ocean and traveling to land to nourish soil. What if the…

Expanding Our Capacity to Love

Expanding Our Capacity to Love
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January 1, 2017  •  Article  • 
What if we came to this world to expand our capacity to love? What if we had to forget where we came from in order to fulfill that quest, like water evaporating from the ocean and traveling to land to nourish soil. What if the…
There's No Such Thing as a Perfect Strategy
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November 20, 2017  •  Article  
What if there's no such thing as a perfect strategy?  (Strategies are behaviors intended to contribute to fulfilling a universal human need.) What that means to me is that no matter which strategic choice I make, some needs will be satisfied while others remain hungry.…

There's No Such Thing as a Perfect Strategy

There's No Such Thing as a Perfect Strategy
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November 20, 2017  •  Article  • 
What if there's no such thing as a perfect strategy?  (Strategies are behaviors intended to contribute to fulfilling a universal human need.) What that means to me is that no matter which strategic choice I make, some needs will be satisfied while others remain hungry.…
An Invitation to Resonance: The Practice of Nonviolent Communication
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November 16, 2017  •  Article  
The dark haired, middle-aged woman stood on the "enraged" placard, choosing her place in the line of laminated cards ranging along the anger continuum from "annoyed" up to "enraged" and "livid." "I'm so angry at him – he's a sick man, and I don't want…

An Invitation to Resonance: The Practice of Nonviolent Communication

An Invitation to Resonance: The Practice of Nonviolent Communication
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November 16, 2017  •  Article  • 
The dark haired, middle-aged woman stood on the "enraged" placard, choosing her place in the line of laminated cards ranging along the anger continuum from "annoyed" up to "enraged" and "livid." "I'm so angry at him – he's a sick man, and I don't want…
Leadership Lessons from the Civil Rights Movement
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November 8, 2017  •  Article  
My life is spent traveling between different lands. There is the land of my NVC family. This land is full of people who have abundant hope, who believe change is possible. Some focus on individual change – making their lives and the lives of people in…

Leadership Lessons from the Civil Rights Movement

Leadership Lessons from the Civil Rights Movement
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November 8, 2017  •  Article  • 
My life is spent traveling between different lands. There is the land of my NVC family. This land is full of people who have abundant hope, who believe change is possible. Some focus on individual change – making their lives and the lives of people in…
Can Needs Be Harmful?
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October 20, 2017  •  Article  
Please join me in a visualization. Take a minute to imagine that you are a baby panda bear. You live in a zoo in an enclosure designed to resemble the panda bear's natural habitat in the wild. Bamboo, the mainstay of your diet, is flown…

Can Needs Be Harmful?

Can Needs Be Harmful?
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October 20, 2017  •  Article  • 
Please join me in a visualization. Take a minute to imagine that you are a baby panda bear. You live in a zoo in an enclosure designed to resemble the panda bear's natural habitat in the wild. Bamboo, the mainstay of your diet, is flown…
What Makes NVC Hard?
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October 20, 2017  •  Article  
Marshall Rosenberg, writing about Nonviolent Communication famously said, "Every action is an attempt to meet needs." Now, in the age when neuroscience has become accessible enough to help us decode everyday life, we can add, "And the needs behind every action might be in reaction…

What Makes NVC Hard?

What Makes NVC Hard?
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October 20, 2017  •  Article  • 
Marshall Rosenberg, writing about Nonviolent Communication famously said, "Every action is an attempt to meet needs." Now, in the age when neuroscience has become accessible enough to help us decode everyday life, we can add, "And the needs behind every action might be in reaction…
I'll Work on Me, You Work on You
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October 20, 2017  •  Article  
Once we learn a communication tool like NVC, our enthusiasm can extend to a heartfelt desire to share it with others.  We imagine that if we are benefiting from the tools of empathy, honesty and self-connection, those we love and care for will also.  We…

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You
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October 20, 2017  •  Article  • 
Once we learn a communication tool like NVC, our enthusiasm can extend to a heartfelt desire to share it with others.  We imagine that if we are benefiting from the tools of empathy, honesty and self-connection, those we love and care for will also.  We…
Bringing Compassion to Painful Places
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January 1, 2017  •  Article  
The end of a marriage, the destruction of nature, a politician who does not share your values winning an election, how on earth do we bring compassion to these painful experiences? Compassion enters into painful places when we find a willingness to be present to…

Bringing Compassion to Painful Places

Bringing Compassion to Painful Places
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January 1, 2017  •  Article  • 
The end of a marriage, the destruction of nature, a politician who does not share your values winning an election, how on earth do we bring compassion to these painful experiences? Compassion enters into painful places when we find a willingness to be present to…
"I'm Not Good Enough" and Other Leadership Myths
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October 20, 2017  •  Article  
Have you found yourself in that position – sitting in a training or meeting, thinking you have the skills and knowledge to lead, but still stepping back? Many people find themselves balancing on the edge of leadership – yearning to step forward, but holding back.…

"I'm Not Good Enough" and Other Leadership Myths

"I'm Not Good Enough" and Other Leadership Myths
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October 20, 2017  •  Article  • 
Have you found yourself in that position – sitting in a training or meeting, thinking you have the skills and knowledge to lead, but still stepping back? Many people find themselves balancing on the edge of leadership – yearning to step forward, but holding back.…
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