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Don't Take It Personally
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  
You’ve heard it many times. “Don’t take it personally” .. a modern day aphorism commonly espoused in personal and professional development trainings and spiritual teachings intended to remind us that the things other people say and do are more ostensibly a reflection of who they…

Don't Take It Personally

Don't Take It Personally
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  • 
You’ve heard it many times. “Don’t take it personally” .. a modern day aphorism commonly espoused in personal and professional development trainings and spiritual teachings intended to remind us that the things other people say and do are more ostensibly a reflection of who they…
Harvesting Social Change One Step at a Time
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  
For the past few months, I’ve been thinking about and supporting others in taking steps towards healing the seemingly uncomfortable divide between our families, communities, and countries. It can seem so hard to even open a conversation about our political differences, let alone locate common…

Harvesting Social Change One Step at a Time

Harvesting Social Change One Step at a Time
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  • 
For the past few months, I’ve been thinking about and supporting others in taking steps towards healing the seemingly uncomfortable divide between our families, communities, and countries. It can seem so hard to even open a conversation about our political differences, let alone locate common…
Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  
If you’re attempting to communicate with someone who doesn’t speak or sign the same language as you, and you don’t have an interpreter, no matter how clear or connected your communication, you may not be heard or understood. There are external or structural issues at…

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  • 
If you’re attempting to communicate with someone who doesn’t speak or sign the same language as you, and you don’t have an interpreter, no matter how clear or connected your communication, you may not be heard or understood. There are external or structural issues at…
Why Do I Feel Depressed?
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April 3, 2018  •  Article  
I feel depressed because I have a human need that is not being attended to. It’s hard to argue with this conclusion. The only thing is, there is much more to the story than this statement alludes to, and we will miss the mark entirely…

Why Do I Feel Depressed?

Why Do I Feel Depressed?
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April 3, 2018  •  Article  • 
I feel depressed because I have a human need that is not being attended to. It’s hard to argue with this conclusion. The only thing is, there is much more to the story than this statement alludes to, and we will miss the mark entirely…
Increasing Your Capacity to Feel
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  
Two of the most supportive things parents can do for their children are healing their own attachment trauma (thereby further developing their own neural pathways for emotional regulation and secure attachment) and reclaiming disowned parts. The more that parents do these two things, the wider their…

Increasing Your Capacity to Feel

Increasing Your Capacity to Feel
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  • 
Two of the most supportive things parents can do for their children are healing their own attachment trauma (thereby further developing their own neural pathways for emotional regulation and secure attachment) and reclaiming disowned parts. The more that parents do these two things, the wider their…
“The Zero Step:  What we do before we open our mouths influences what happens next!
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March 19, 2018  •  Article  
“Know what you want before you open your mouth.” -Marshall Rosenberg, developer of Nonviolent Communication

“The Zero Step: What we do before we open our mouths influences what happens next!

“The Zero Step:  What we do before we open our mouths influences what happens next!
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March 19, 2018  •  Article  • 
“Know what you want before you open your mouth.” -Marshall Rosenberg, developer of Nonviolent Communication
Womens Empowerment and Advocacy in Guatemala
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March 10, 2018  •  Article  
Some highlights from my sharing of Nonviolent Communication in Guatemala in 2015.

Womens Empowerment and Advocacy in Guatemala

Womens Empowerment and Advocacy in Guatemala
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March 10, 2018  •  Article  • 
Some highlights from my sharing of Nonviolent Communication in Guatemala in 2015.
Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous
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March 3, 2018  •  Article  
For both seasoned and new NVC aficionados, I think many would agree that the word ‘empathy’ typically becomes central to one’s understanding of what NVC is all about. One might even argue that empathy is itself synonymous with NVC. The beauty of this strong pairing…

Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous

Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous
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March 3, 2018  •  Article  • 
For both seasoned and new NVC aficionados, I think many would agree that the word ‘empathy’ typically becomes central to one’s understanding of what NVC is all about. One might even argue that empathy is itself synonymous with NVC. The beauty of this strong pairing…
The Three Stages of Change
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February 27, 2018  •  Article  
Fall says CHANGE to me! Its changing colors, and the changing light as the days so obviously become shorter. I start to notice an inner call for greater focus on the state of my life and work.This happens every year for me — partly due…

The Three Stages of Change

The Three Stages of Change
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February 27, 2018  •  Article  • 
Fall says CHANGE to me! Its changing colors, and the changing light as the days so obviously become shorter. I start to notice an inner call for greater focus on the state of my life and work.This happens every year for me — partly due…
NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over
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February 21, 2018  •  Article  
Last year, Mary Mackenzie of the NVC Academy (NVCA) organized an online symposium Removing Our Blinders: Seeing the Impact of Power and Privilege that I consider courageous and visionary. The symposium offered an opportunity for those of European background, men, women, and people of color…

NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over

NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over
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February 21, 2018  •  Article  • 
Last year, Mary Mackenzie of the NVC Academy (NVCA) organized an online symposium Removing Our Blinders: Seeing the Impact of Power and Privilege that I consider courageous and visionary. The symposium offered an opportunity for those of European background, men, women, and people of color…
Let it RAIN!
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February 14, 2017  •  Article  
For me, remembering the distinction between needs and strategies supports well-being because it goes to the root of suffering.  To clarify what I mean, consider this example I heard at a recent workshop:  "When I need empathy and understanding I want to rely on my…

Let it RAIN!

Let it RAIN!
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February 14, 2017  •  Article  • 
For me, remembering the distinction between needs and strategies supports well-being because it goes to the root of suffering.  To clarify what I mean, consider this example I heard at a recent workshop:  "When I need empathy and understanding I want to rely on my…
A Message from Botswana
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February 5, 2018  •  Article  
In Botswana this week, I have shared nonviolent communication and leadership training in two secondary schools, with university students, and with teens who attended a parenting class. This is a country that has a median age of 26. I've been reflecting on how, throughout the…

A Message from Botswana

A Message from Botswana
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February 5, 2018  •  Article  • 
In Botswana this week, I have shared nonviolent communication and leadership training in two secondary schools, with university students, and with teens who attended a parenting class. This is a country that has a median age of 26. I've been reflecting on how, throughout the…
A Love Song for our Hearts
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January 30, 2018  •  Article  
Long ago, when I was 19 years old, I was in my college cafeteria, going through the buffet line with my tray. A young man in my German class, a person that I had admired, asked if he could speak with me for a moment.…

A Love Song for our Hearts

A Love Song for our Hearts
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January 30, 2018  •  Article  • 
Long ago, when I was 19 years old, I was in my college cafeteria, going through the buffet line with my tray. A young man in my German class, a person that I had admired, asked if he could speak with me for a moment.…
Making Peace with Our Loyal Soldiers
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  
I often speak and write about how falling in love with yourself is a crucial element of building great relationships with others. Falling in love with yourself means embracing all aspects of yourself (including the disowned parts in your shadow), doing what you love, following your…

Making Peace with Our Loyal Soldiers

Making Peace with Our Loyal Soldiers
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  • 
I often speak and write about how falling in love with yourself is a crucial element of building great relationships with others. Falling in love with yourself means embracing all aspects of yourself (including the disowned parts in your shadow), doing what you love, following your…
The Shadow Side of Autonomy
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January 20, 2018  •  Article  
Autonomy .. it's a word that carries a lot of currency. And certainly in the part of the world where I live (North America), it's considered both an inalienable right and a sign of achievement if a person is living a self-designed life. I have…

The Shadow Side of Autonomy

The Shadow Side of Autonomy
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January 20, 2018  •  Article  • 
Autonomy .. it's a word that carries a lot of currency. And certainly in the part of the world where I live (North America), it's considered both an inalienable right and a sign of achievement if a person is living a self-designed life. I have…
Kitty Empathy
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January 15, 2018  •  Article  
Awhile ago, I passed by an ASPCA van, with cats up for adoption. I went over to take a look and fell in love with a cat called Caiden. I love Irish names, so he caught my attention. I already had two cats at home…

Kitty Empathy

Kitty Empathy
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January 15, 2018  •  Article  • 
Awhile ago, I passed by an ASPCA van, with cats up for adoption. I went over to take a look and fell in love with a cat called Caiden. I love Irish names, so he caught my attention. I already had two cats at home…
Healing Beyond Borders
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January 10, 2018  •  Article  
For the past several months, I’ve been thinking about and supporting others in taking steps towards healing the seemingly uncomfortable divide between people – our families, communities, countries and others in the world. It can seem so hard to even open a conversation about our…

Healing Beyond Borders

Healing Beyond Borders
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January 10, 2018  •  Article  • 
For the past several months, I’ve been thinking about and supporting others in taking steps towards healing the seemingly uncomfortable divide between people – our families, communities, countries and others in the world. It can seem so hard to even open a conversation about our…
Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  
What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart. -Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.Can you imagine that?  What would the world be like if there was flow between all of us based on…

Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving

Giving the Gift of Compassionate Giving
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January 1, 2018  •  Article  • 
What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart. -Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.Can you imagine that?  What would the world be like if there was flow between all of us based on…
What Would Your Parents Say if They Were Making a Repair with You?
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December 15, 2017  •  Article  
Every time I learn something new about empathy or attachment, I have to mourn that I didn't know it before. Since my whole focus is learning about empathy and attachment, there is a lot of mourning. Some of the books I have, I have to…

What Would Your Parents Say if They Were Making a Repair with You?

What Would Your Parents Say if They Were Making a Repair with You?
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December 15, 2017  •  Article  • 
Every time I learn something new about empathy or attachment, I have to mourn that I didn't know it before. Since my whole focus is learning about empathy and attachment, there is a lot of mourning. Some of the books I have, I have to…
Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change
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January 1, 2017  •  Article  
It’s been several years since Marshall Rosenberg’s death, the much loved author of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life and founder of the Center for Nonviolent Communication. Rosenberg could easily be described as a man who expressed profound radical insights that could significantly change lives.…

Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change
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January 1, 2017  •  Article  • 
It’s been several years since Marshall Rosenberg’s death, the much loved author of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life and founder of the Center for Nonviolent Communication. Rosenberg could easily be described as a man who expressed profound radical insights that could significantly change lives.…
A World Where Empathy for One Another is the Norm
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December 2, 2017  •  Article  
I recently read an article by Dan Rather called, Why America Needs More Empathy. It touched me because he reminded me of what my parents taught me about helping other people.

A World Where Empathy for One Another is the Norm

A World Where Empathy for One Another is the Norm
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December 2, 2017  •  Article  • 
I recently read an article by Dan Rather called, Why America Needs More Empathy. It touched me because he reminded me of what my parents taught me about helping other people.
Expanding Our Capacity to Love
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January 1, 2017  •  Article  
What if we came to this world to expand our capacity to love? What if we had to forget where we came from in order to fulfill that quest, like water evaporating from the ocean and traveling to land to nourish soil. What if the…

Expanding Our Capacity to Love

Expanding Our Capacity to Love
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January 1, 2017  •  Article  • 
What if we came to this world to expand our capacity to love? What if we had to forget where we came from in order to fulfill that quest, like water evaporating from the ocean and traveling to land to nourish soil. What if the…
There's No Such Thing as a Perfect Strategy
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November 20, 2017  •  Article  
What if there's no such thing as a perfect strategy?  (Strategies are behaviors intended to contribute to fulfilling a universal human need.) What that means to me is that no matter which strategic choice I make, some needs will be satisfied while others remain hungry.…

There's No Such Thing as a Perfect Strategy

There's No Such Thing as a Perfect Strategy
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November 20, 2017  •  Article  • 
What if there's no such thing as a perfect strategy?  (Strategies are behaviors intended to contribute to fulfilling a universal human need.) What that means to me is that no matter which strategic choice I make, some needs will be satisfied while others remain hungry.…
An Invitation to Resonance: The Practice of Nonviolent Communication
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November 16, 2017  •  Article  
The dark haired, middle-aged woman stood on the "enraged" placard, choosing her place in the line of laminated cards ranging along the anger continuum from "annoyed" up to "enraged" and "livid." "I'm so angry at him – he's a sick man, and I don't want…

An Invitation to Resonance: The Practice of Nonviolent Communication

An Invitation to Resonance: The Practice of Nonviolent Communication
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November 16, 2017  •  Article  • 
The dark haired, middle-aged woman stood on the "enraged" placard, choosing her place in the line of laminated cards ranging along the anger continuum from "annoyed" up to "enraged" and "livid." "I'm so angry at him – he's a sick man, and I don't want…
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