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The OA: An Allegory of Healing Trauma
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July 2, 2019  •  Article  
I try to stay away from Netflix series because I don't want to get hooked into them. An ongoing goal of mine is less screen time and more creative time. But Netflix is so darn comforting and understanding when the creative juices aren't flowing. So…

The OA: An Allegory of Healing Trauma

The OA: An Allegory of Healing Trauma
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July 2, 2019  •  Article  • 
I try to stay away from Netflix series because I don't want to get hooked into them. An ongoing goal of mine is less screen time and more creative time. But Netflix is so darn comforting and understanding when the creative juices aren't flowing. So…
The Practice of Mindful Communication
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June 17, 2019  •  Article  
There is one activity we each do every day, all day long, in every area of our lives—at home, at work, with friends, even when we’re alone. The success of our relationships, our work, and life in general rests heavily on it, yet few of…

The Practice of Mindful Communication

The Practice of Mindful Communication
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June 17, 2019  •  Article  • 
There is one activity we each do every day, all day long, in every area of our lives—at home, at work, with friends, even when we’re alone. The success of our relationships, our work, and life in general rests heavily on it, yet few of…
Five Steps for Maintaining Integrity and Compassion When They Don't Care How Their Actions Affect You OR Nonviolent Communication as a One-Way Street
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June 1, 2019  •  Article  
Sam, a software engineer, came to me recently, seeking to learn about how Nonviolent Communication might help him respond to a workplace situation that had become intolerable.  Specifically, Sam's boss, Tom, was assigning more work than could be reasonably completed in a 50-hour week, not…

Five Steps for Maintaining Integrity and Compassion When They Don't Care How Their Actions Affect You OR Nonviolent Communication as a One-Way Street

Five Steps for Maintaining Integrity and Compassion When They Don't Care How Their Actions Affect You OR Nonviolent Communication as a One-Way Street
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June 1, 2019  •  Article  • 
Sam, a software engineer, came to me recently, seeking to learn about how Nonviolent Communication might help him respond to a workplace situation that had become intolerable.  Specifically, Sam's boss, Tom, was assigning more work than could be reasonably completed in a 50-hour week, not…
Transformative Dialogue
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May 17, 2019  •  Article  
Have you ever persevered through a challenging situation with a friend and come out the other side with more respect for one another? Or worked out a disagreement with a loved one, finding that you feel even closer, with more care and affection? Intimacy is…

Transformative Dialogue

Transformative Dialogue
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May 17, 2019  •  Article  • 
Have you ever persevered through a challenging situation with a friend and come out the other side with more respect for one another? Or worked out a disagreement with a loved one, finding that you feel even closer, with more care and affection? Intimacy is…
A Healing Work of Art
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April 24, 2019  •  Article  
You likely won’t be surprised that many of my close friends are therapists. What might be surprising for you is how we sometimes spontaneously do our healing work in the middle of a visit, and not always in the most private of places. Case in…

A Healing Work of Art

A Healing Work of Art
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April 24, 2019  •  Article  • 
You likely won’t be surprised that many of my close friends are therapists. What might be surprising for you is how we sometimes spontaneously do our healing work in the middle of a visit, and not always in the most private of places. Case in…
Restoring the Flow of Gifting in Community
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April 11, 2019  •  Article  
A little over a year ago I wrote a piece about how humans, historically, have broken off from the flow of energy and resources that the web of life both nurtures and relies on through the mechanisms of exchange and accumulation. I also included in…

Restoring the Flow of Gifting in Community

Restoring the Flow of Gifting in Community
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April 11, 2019  •  Article  • 
A little over a year ago I wrote a piece about how humans, historically, have broken off from the flow of energy and resources that the web of life both nurtures and relies on through the mechanisms of exchange and accumulation. I also included in…
Don't Just Feel Your Emotions
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April 5, 2019  •  Article  
Isn't it astounding that feeling emotions is so fundamental and essential to our humanity and well being and yet few of us were taught how to feel? Few of us were guided to notice the sensations in our bodies related to our emotions. Not many of us were shown how…

Don't Just Feel Your Emotions

Don't Just Feel Your Emotions
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April 5, 2019  •  Article  • 
Isn't it astounding that feeling emotions is so fundamental and essential to our humanity and well being and yet few of us were taught how to feel? Few of us were guided to notice the sensations in our bodies related to our emotions. Not many of us were shown how…
Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?
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March 19, 2019  •  Article  
In August 2018, at the end of one of the Nonviolent Global Liberation (NGL) retreats, the retreat team sat in the center of the circle and began to engage in a fully transparent process for distributing the money that people who participated contributed. I have…

Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?

Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?
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March 19, 2019  •  Article  • 
In August 2018, at the end of one of the Nonviolent Global Liberation (NGL) retreats, the retreat team sat in the center of the circle and began to engage in a fully transparent process for distributing the money that people who participated contributed. I have…
The Fearful Fetus and a Life of Ever-Deepening Connection
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March 13, 2019  •  Article  
As an NVC Trainer and practitioner, I've explored many alternative models of healing that complement and deepen my NVC practice. Not long ago I was a participant in an Ayahuasca ceremony and asked the consciousness of Ayahuasca to teach me more about the fear I…

The Fearful Fetus and a Life of Ever-Deepening Connection

The Fearful Fetus and a Life of Ever-Deepening Connection
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March 13, 2019  •  Article  • 
As an NVC Trainer and practitioner, I've explored many alternative models of healing that complement and deepen my NVC practice. Not long ago I was a participant in an Ayahuasca ceremony and asked the consciousness of Ayahuasca to teach me more about the fear I…
The Necessity of Joy
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February 28, 2019  •  Article  
Practice I grew up on the east coast, whose gentle hills and particular blend of evergreen and deciduous trees still soothes me. On the weekends, we would drive about two hours north to the Hudson Valley of New York state, where my grandmother had the…

The Necessity of Joy

The Necessity of Joy
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February 28, 2019  •  Article  • 
Practice I grew up on the east coast, whose gentle hills and particular blend of evergreen and deciduous trees still soothes me. On the weekends, we would drive about two hours north to the Hudson Valley of New York state, where my grandmother had the…
The Wounded Butterfly: Ongoing Transformation
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February 7, 2019  •  Article  
This article is written with They, Their, Them pronouns out of respect for those who don't identify with a particular gender.   With a supportive enough environment, children become adults who can create lives of their own. They find a career, a home, and manage…

The Wounded Butterfly: Ongoing Transformation

The Wounded Butterfly: Ongoing Transformation
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February 7, 2019  •  Article  • 
This article is written with They, Their, Them pronouns out of respect for those who don't identify with a particular gender.   With a supportive enough environment, children become adults who can create lives of their own. They find a career, a home, and manage…
Learning How to Listen
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January 25, 2019  •  Article  
Listening is a cornerstone of dialogue and a powerful metaphor for spiritual practice. When we’re willing and able to listen, we open a conduit that allows connection and understanding to happen. There are so many ways to listen. We can listen to the content of…

Learning How to Listen

Learning How to Listen
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January 25, 2019  •  Article  • 
Listening is a cornerstone of dialogue and a powerful metaphor for spiritual practice. When we’re willing and able to listen, we open a conduit that allows connection and understanding to happen. There are so many ways to listen. We can listen to the content of…
Interdependence in Action: How to Change Agreements with Care
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January 17, 2019  •  Article  
In 2004, a few days into the first of four week-long retreats of a yearlong program I was co-leading, one participant, who I will call Barbara, informed the program leaders that she was intending to leave the program after the first retreat, because it wasn’t…

Interdependence in Action: How to Change Agreements with Care

Interdependence in Action: How to Change Agreements with Care
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January 17, 2019  •  Article  • 
In 2004, a few days into the first of four week-long retreats of a yearlong program I was co-leading, one participant, who I will call Barbara, informed the program leaders that she was intending to leave the program after the first retreat, because it wasn’t…
Get to Know Your False Ego and Take Back Your Life
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January 9, 2019  •  Article  
Try this experiment: Choose your top three distractions, the things you turn to for comfort and entertainment but don't feed your soul - social media, TV/movies, comfort food, alcohol, extra hours at work, shopping, etc. - give them up for a month, and replace them…

Get to Know Your False Ego and Take Back Your Life

Get to Know Your False Ego and Take Back Your Life
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January 9, 2019  •  Article  • 
Try this experiment: Choose your top three distractions, the things you turn to for comfort and entertainment but don't feed your soul - social media, TV/movies, comfort food, alcohol, extra hours at work, shopping, etc. - give them up for a month, and replace them…
Nonviolence: Commitment, Capacity, and Community
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January 8, 2019  •  Article  
In the mid 1990s I went on a backpacking trip with a friend that turned into a relational nightmare. Reverberating from the intense conflict, we set aside time to reweave intimacy and understanding. At a certain point, she expressed what seemed almost like anger directed…

Nonviolence: Commitment, Capacity, and Community

Nonviolence: Commitment, Capacity, and Community
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January 8, 2019  •  Article  • 
In the mid 1990s I went on a backpacking trip with a friend that turned into a relational nightmare. Reverberating from the intense conflict, we set aside time to reweave intimacy and understanding. At a certain point, she expressed what seemed almost like anger directed…
Deep Healing Work and Shining a Weird and Wonderful Light
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December 27, 2018  •  Article  
First of all, allow me to exhort you to watch this piece of sheer brilliance. I've watched it a few times and every time there is another level of brilliance to appreciate, especially as I'm fairly certain that he is improvising some of it. Try…

Deep Healing Work and Shining a Weird and Wonderful Light

Deep Healing Work and Shining a Weird and Wonderful Light
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December 27, 2018  •  Article  • 
First of all, allow me to exhort you to watch this piece of sheer brilliance. I've watched it a few times and every time there is another level of brilliance to appreciate, especially as I'm fairly certain that he is improvising some of it. Try…
NVC and Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy
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December 10, 2018  •  Article  
Part 2 - I Need You.  In the context of a healing ceremony or therapy session, psychedelic journeys amplify the unresolved issues from childhood, although it can be hard to remember that and make sense of things during a psychedelic journey. Making the connections between…

NVC and Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy

NVC and Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy
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December 10, 2018  •  Article  • 
Part 2 - I Need You.  In the context of a healing ceremony or therapy session, psychedelic journeys amplify the unresolved issues from childhood, although it can be hard to remember that and make sense of things during a psychedelic journey. Making the connections between…
What’s Love Got To Do With It?  A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”
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December 6, 2018  •  Article  
“I love you.” Ah, that warm and fuzzy feeling! I can see hear birds singing.  Little cupids with their bows and arrows, and rainbows!  Every song and poem about romantic love floats into my head… as The Beatles croon, “All you need is love!” Love…

What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”

What’s Love Got To Do With It?  A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”
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December 6, 2018  •  Article  • 
“I love you.” Ah, that warm and fuzzy feeling! I can see hear birds singing.  Little cupids with their bows and arrows, and rainbows!  Every song and poem about romantic love floats into my head… as The Beatles croon, “All you need is love!” Love…
Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures
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December 6, 2018  •  Article  
Several years ago I was heading to a holiday party I’d organized with a bunch of supplies in tow. I live in New York City and was riding the subway. I packed all the decorations and food in a large cart with wheels to make…

Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures

Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures
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December 6, 2018  •  Article  • 
Several years ago I was heading to a holiday party I’d organized with a bunch of supplies in tow. I live in New York City and was riding the subway. I packed all the decorations and food in a large cart with wheels to make…
The Heavenly Woman
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November 14, 2018  •  Article  
My poem below, The Heavenly Woman, is about the adventure men go through when reclaiming their feminine self and their inner Heavenly Woman (The Jungian Analyst and writer Robert Johnson separated the feminine into several aspects, The Heavenly Woman being one of them). Women face their…

The Heavenly Woman

The Heavenly Woman
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November 14, 2018  •  Article  • 
My poem below, The Heavenly Woman, is about the adventure men go through when reclaiming their feminine self and their inner Heavenly Woman (The Jungian Analyst and writer Robert Johnson separated the feminine into several aspects, The Heavenly Woman being one of them). Women face their…
Mourning and Celebration: Two Sides of Gratitude
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November 11, 2018  •  Article  
Two Sides of Gratitude: Mourning and Celebration by David Weinstock In one of my evening classes on Embodying Nonviolent Communication, we explored self-empathy within the Spiral Blend practice, (https://youtu.be/UTPgJQQBjDML), a somatic map of NVC. I spoke about the healing that comes through mourning and celebration.…

Mourning and Celebration: Two Sides of Gratitude

Mourning and Celebration: Two Sides of Gratitude
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November 11, 2018  •  Article  • 
Two Sides of Gratitude: Mourning and Celebration by David Weinstock In one of my evening classes on Embodying Nonviolent Communication, we explored self-empathy within the Spiral Blend practice, (https://youtu.be/UTPgJQQBjDML), a somatic map of NVC. I spoke about the healing that comes through mourning and celebration.…
On Listening: Unlearning Old Habits to Build Stronger Relationships
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November 10, 2018  •  Article  
I used to think that listening to someone was as simple as staying quiet while they talked. And frankly, I thought I was pretty good at it—I didn’t interrupt, friends opened up with me easily and I got along well with most people. Then something…

On Listening: Unlearning Old Habits to Build Stronger Relationships

On Listening: Unlearning Old Habits to Build Stronger Relationships
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November 10, 2018  •  Article  • 
I used to think that listening to someone was as simple as staying quiet while they talked. And frankly, I thought I was pretty good at it—I didn’t interrupt, friends opened up with me easily and I got along well with most people. Then something…
Your Inner Leader
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November 1, 2018  •  Article  
When building successful relationships, it can be very helpful to see yourself as a collection of different inner parts that developed in your psyche due to your various life experiences. There are all kinds of inner parts: a child part, a critic part, a victim…

Your Inner Leader

Your Inner Leader
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November 1, 2018  •  Article  • 
When building successful relationships, it can be very helpful to see yourself as a collection of different inner parts that developed in your psyche due to your various life experiences. There are all kinds of inner parts: a child part, a critic part, a victim…
Laughter, IPNB and Empathy
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October 1, 2018  •  Article  
“Alicia, do you have a needs guess for Jonathan,” I asked in an empathy circle last week.Instead of a needs guess, Alicia said, “I’m guessing that if he gets his daughter a tutor, she’ll do better.”For everyone who loves NVC, these are the cringe-worthy moments,…

Laughter, IPNB and Empathy

Laughter, IPNB and Empathy
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October 1, 2018  •  Article  • 
“Alicia, do you have a needs guess for Jonathan,” I asked in an empathy circle last week.Instead of a needs guess, Alicia said, “I’m guessing that if he gets his daughter a tutor, she’ll do better.”For everyone who loves NVC, these are the cringe-worthy moments,…
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