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10 Things White People Can Do to Work for Racial Justice
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June 1, 2020  •  Article  
In my most recent email, I shared some reflections on making space to be with the range of difficult emotions surfacing in response to George Floyd’s murder. The depth of pain, the magnitude of the violence, are hard to bear. I opened my inbox this…

10 Things White People Can Do to Work for Racial Justice

10 Things White People Can Do to Work for Racial Justice
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June 1, 2020  •  Article  • 
In my most recent email, I shared some reflections on making space to be with the range of difficult emotions surfacing in response to George Floyd’s murder. The depth of pain, the magnitude of the violence, are hard to bear. I opened my inbox this…
Finding Courage In A Pandemic
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April 20, 2020  •  Article  
I’ve found myself checking my phone, reading the news, and turning on the radio more often lately. Each headline sends a little current of energy through me. “The virus is spreading… markets are crashing… schools are closed…”    If you’re worried, it’s understandable. There’s panic in…

Finding Courage In A Pandemic

Finding Courage In A Pandemic
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April 20, 2020  •  Article  • 
I’ve found myself checking my phone, reading the news, and turning on the radio more often lately. Each headline sends a little current of energy through me. “The virus is spreading… markets are crashing… schools are closed…”    If you’re worried, it’s understandable. There’s panic in…
How to Find Strength During a Crisis
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March 31, 2020  •  Article  
The other day, I was teaching a class online about how to cultivate more empathy and compassion for ourselves. There are so many obstacles that can make it hard to find tenderness for ourselves. We might believe that our personal pain doesn’t matter in light of all…

How to Find Strength During a Crisis

How to Find Strength During a Crisis
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March 31, 2020  •  Article  • 
The other day, I was teaching a class online about how to cultivate more empathy and compassion for ourselves. There are so many obstacles that can make it hard to find tenderness for ourselves. We might believe that our personal pain doesn’t matter in light of all…
Battling for My Body
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March 13, 2020  •  Article  
Recently, I did 5 nights of Ayahuasca in Mexico. After the first night, I didn’t think I would do all five. I’m so glad I stuck with it as I learned so much and had some profound healing. From time to time I'm asked why…

Battling for My Body

Battling for My Body
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March 13, 2020  •  Article  • 
Recently, I did 5 nights of Ayahuasca in Mexico. After the first night, I didn’t think I would do all five. I’m so glad I stuck with it as I learned so much and had some profound healing. From time to time I'm asked why…
Four Mindful Communication Skills for Difficult Conversations
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February 23, 2020  •  Article  
Difficult conversations are a part of life. Having good communication skills doesn’t mean we never argue; it means having the tools, strength, and confidence to navigate tough situations when they arise. Whether it’s the coworker with that uncanny ability to push our buttons, simmering tension…

Four Mindful Communication Skills for Difficult Conversations

Four Mindful Communication Skills for Difficult Conversations
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February 23, 2020  •  Article  • 
Difficult conversations are a part of life. Having good communication skills doesn’t mean we never argue; it means having the tools, strength, and confidence to navigate tough situations when they arise. Whether it’s the coworker with that uncanny ability to push our buttons, simmering tension…
Five Core Practices For Meaningul Conversation
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January 27, 2020  •  Article  
There is one activity we each do every day, all day long, in every area of our lives—at home, at work, with friends, even when we’re alone. The success of our relationships, our work, and life in general rests heavily on it, yet few of…

Five Core Practices For Meaningul Conversation

Five Core Practices For Meaningul Conversation
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January 27, 2020  •  Article  • 
There is one activity we each do every day, all day long, in every area of our lives—at home, at work, with friends, even when we’re alone. The success of our relationships, our work, and life in general rests heavily on it, yet few of…
A Long-Shot Romance
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January 3, 2020  •  Article  
I have my mother's permission to publish this article. My 81-year-old mother is giddy. “I feel like a teenager,” she tells me through the phone. My mother goes on to explain that the previous week she had been waiting for a bus on a bitterly…

A Long-Shot Romance

A Long-Shot Romance
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January 3, 2020  •  Article  • 
I have my mother's permission to publish this article. My 81-year-old mother is giddy. “I feel like a teenager,” she tells me through the phone. My mother goes on to explain that the previous week she had been waiting for a bus on a bitterly…
Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations
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December 30, 2019  •  Article  
There is a saying in many spiritual traditions, “Only speak if you can improve upon the silence.” Personally, there are plenty of times when I’d rather simply be quiet. There’s also a time and a place to speak up—when we need to set limits, seek…

Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations

Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations
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December 30, 2019  •  Article  • 
There is a saying in many spiritual traditions, “Only speak if you can improve upon the silence.” Personally, there are plenty of times when I’d rather simply be quiet. There’s also a time and a place to speak up—when we need to set limits, seek…
How a Pause Changed My Relationship With My Father
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November 27, 2019  •  Article  
 I have my father’s blessing to publish this story. I’m with my father in his office in Ontario. I live in British Columbia, and it’s been eight years since we were last together in person. My father and I have been working hard on our…

How a Pause Changed My Relationship With My Father

How a Pause Changed My Relationship With My Father
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November 27, 2019  •  Article  • 
 I have my father’s blessing to publish this story. I’m with my father in his office in Ontario. I live in British Columbia, and it’s been eight years since we were last together in person. My father and I have been working hard on our…
Four Questions To Ask Yourself Before Speaking
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October 29, 2019  •  Article  
There is a saying in many spiritual traditions, “Only speak if you can improve upon the silence.” Personally, there are plenty of times when I’d rather simply be quiet. There’s also a time and a place to speak up—when we need to set limits, seek…

Four Questions To Ask Yourself Before Speaking

Four Questions To Ask Yourself Before Speaking
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October 29, 2019  •  Article  • 
There is a saying in many spiritual traditions, “Only speak if you can improve upon the silence.” Personally, there are plenty of times when I’d rather simply be quiet. There’s also a time and a place to speak up—when we need to set limits, seek…
Tips for Regulating Strong Emotions
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October 23, 2019  •  Article  
When strong emotions are activated, they strain your nervous system if they are not regulated. Think of the transmission of a car when the speed is too fast for the gear it’s in and you’ve got an apt analogy. Regulating emotions doesn’t mean cutting off from them. That…

Tips for Regulating Strong Emotions

Tips for Regulating Strong Emotions
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October 23, 2019  •  Article  • 
When strong emotions are activated, they strain your nervous system if they are not regulated. Think of the transmission of a car when the speed is too fast for the gear it’s in and you’ve got an apt analogy. Regulating emotions doesn’t mean cutting off from them. That…
Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication
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September 30, 2019  •  Article  
Some years ago, I was asked to write a review of a book about which I loved everything except the title: Toward a Socially Responsible Psychology for a Global Era.[1] What I most appreciated in that book was that psychologists were taking to task their…

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication
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September 30, 2019  •  Article  • 
Some years ago, I was asked to write a review of a book about which I loved everything except the title: Toward a Socially Responsible Psychology for a Global Era.[1] What I most appreciated in that book was that psychologists were taking to task their…
Deepening Relationships With Family
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September 30, 2019  •  Article  
It's important to remember how to find joy in the things we love about our family and friends. Though we often associate communication skills with handling conflict (see this post for a few tips), mindful communication is about so much more. It can deepen friendships,…

Deepening Relationships With Family

Deepening Relationships With Family
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September 30, 2019  •  Article  • 
It's important to remember how to find joy in the things we love about our family and friends. Though we often associate communication skills with handling conflict (see this post for a few tips), mindful communication is about so much more. It can deepen friendships,…
Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It
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September 3, 2019  •  Article  
It’s been a tough few weeks. Whether it’s another domestic shooting or the rainforest in flames, it can feel overwhelming to stay abreast of what’s happening yet impossible to turn away and unplug. Many of the people I meet these days aren’t sleeping well; they…

Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It

Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It
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September 3, 2019  •  Article  • 
It’s been a tough few weeks. Whether it’s another domestic shooting or the rainforest in flames, it can feel overwhelming to stay abreast of what’s happening yet impossible to turn away and unplug. Many of the people I meet these days aren’t sleeping well; they…
The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention
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August 8, 2019  •  Article  
Given all that we are facing today as a society and a species, the need to have honest conversations about things that matter is paramount. Communication skills are an essential ingredient in this arena, but I don’t think they’re sufficient. To stay balanced and clear…

The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention

The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention
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August 8, 2019  •  Article  • 
Given all that we are facing today as a society and a species, the need to have honest conversations about things that matter is paramount. Communication skills are an essential ingredient in this arena, but I don’t think they’re sufficient. To stay balanced and clear…
Starting and Maintaining an NVC Practice Group
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July 25, 2019  •  Article  
"How do I start a practice group?" "Do I know enough to run a practice group?" "How do I keep NVC alive in me?" So many people leave NVC trainings with enthusiasm and strong desire to keep deepening NVC within them. When we think of…

Starting and Maintaining an NVC Practice Group

Starting and Maintaining an NVC Practice Group
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July 25, 2019  •  Article  • 
"How do I start a practice group?" "Do I know enough to run a practice group?" "How do I keep NVC alive in me?" So many people leave NVC trainings with enthusiasm and strong desire to keep deepening NVC within them. When we think of…
Enemy Images and the Creation of “The Other”: Reflections on the New Zealand Mosque Shootings
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April 5, 2019  •  Article  
It has been several weeks since the massacre in Christchurch, which left 50 people dead. This deliberate act of astonishing violence was even more egregious as it occurred in a house of worship. In an instant, we were all taken back to Pittsburg and Quebec…

Enemy Images and the Creation of “The Other”: Reflections on the New Zealand Mosque Shootings

Enemy Images and the Creation of “The Other”: Reflections on the New Zealand Mosque Shootings
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April 5, 2019  •  Article  • 
It has been several weeks since the massacre in Christchurch, which left 50 people dead. This deliberate act of astonishing violence was even more egregious as it occurred in a house of worship. In an instant, we were all taken back to Pittsburg and Quebec…
The OA: An Allegory of Healing Trauma
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July 2, 2019  •  Article  
I try to stay away from Netflix series because I don't want to get hooked into them. An ongoing goal of mine is less screen time and more creative time. But Netflix is so darn comforting and understanding when the creative juices aren't flowing. So…

The OA: An Allegory of Healing Trauma

The OA: An Allegory of Healing Trauma
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July 2, 2019  •  Article  • 
I try to stay away from Netflix series because I don't want to get hooked into them. An ongoing goal of mine is less screen time and more creative time. But Netflix is so darn comforting and understanding when the creative juices aren't flowing. So…
Reckoning with Collapse: Living into Community from Warsaw to Stroud
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June 23, 2019  •  Article  
This post is the third and last in my May travelogue collection. Following the NGL (Nonviolent Global Liberation) retreat in Poland, eight of us, in various configurations, went on the road via van and train, offering various events over the course of sixteen days. This…

Reckoning with Collapse: Living into Community from Warsaw to Stroud

Reckoning with Collapse: Living into Community from Warsaw to Stroud
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June 23, 2019  •  Article  • 
This post is the third and last in my May travelogue collection. Following the NGL (Nonviolent Global Liberation) retreat in Poland, eight of us, in various configurations, went on the road via van and train, offering various events over the course of sixteen days. This…
The Practice of Mindful Communication
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June 17, 2019  •  Article  
There is one activity we each do every day, all day long, in every area of our lives—at home, at work, with friends, even when we’re alone. The success of our relationships, our work, and life in general rests heavily on it, yet few of…

The Practice of Mindful Communication

The Practice of Mindful Communication
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June 17, 2019  •  Article  • 
There is one activity we each do every day, all day long, in every area of our lives—at home, at work, with friends, even when we’re alone. The success of our relationships, our work, and life in general rests heavily on it, yet few of…
How Far Can We Go Together? Nonviolent Global Liberation Retreat, Poland
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June 2, 2019  •  Article  
This post is the second in my May travelogue collection. Some years ago, when the number of retreats and intensive trainings that I had led or co-led was well over 100, I stopped counting. Each one is its own unique configuration of purpose, players, relationships,…

How Far Can We Go Together? Nonviolent Global Liberation Retreat, Poland

How Far Can We Go Together? Nonviolent Global Liberation Retreat, Poland
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June 2, 2019  •  Article  • 
This post is the second in my May travelogue collection. Some years ago, when the number of retreats and intensive trainings that I had led or co-led was well over 100, I stopped counting. Each one is its own unique configuration of purpose, players, relationships,…
Five Steps for Maintaining Integrity and Compassion When They Don't Care How Their Actions Affect You OR Nonviolent Communication as a One-Way Street
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June 1, 2019  •  Article  
Sam, a software engineer, came to me recently, seeking to learn about how Nonviolent Communication might help him respond to a workplace situation that had become intolerable.  Specifically, Sam's boss, Tom, was assigning more work than could be reasonably completed in a 50-hour week, not…

Five Steps for Maintaining Integrity and Compassion When They Don't Care How Their Actions Affect You OR Nonviolent Communication as a One-Way Street

Five Steps for Maintaining Integrity and Compassion When They Don't Care How Their Actions Affect You OR Nonviolent Communication as a One-Way Street
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June 1, 2019  •  Article  • 
Sam, a software engineer, came to me recently, seeking to learn about how Nonviolent Communication might help him respond to a workplace situation that had become intolerable.  Specifically, Sam's boss, Tom, was assigning more work than could be reasonably completed in a 50-hour week, not…
Living Wealth: Provision, Romania
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May 22, 2019  •  Article  
This month, I am in Europe, in six different places. I am planning to write bits and pieces about the different parts of my tour. Here is the first installment: Robyn, Lars, Carsten and me in their kitchen Robyn is from the US and Lars…

Living Wealth: Provision, Romania

Living Wealth: Provision, Romania
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May 22, 2019  •  Article  • 
This month, I am in Europe, in six different places. I am planning to write bits and pieces about the different parts of my tour. Here is the first installment: Robyn, Lars, Carsten and me in their kitchen Robyn is from the US and Lars…
The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us
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May 5, 2019  •  Article  
Over the course of the last several millennia, more and more power and wealth have been concentrating in the hands of fewer and fewer people. In a very literal sense, this currently deprives the vast majority of the world’s population of the capacity to truly…

The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us

The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us
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May 5, 2019  •  Article  • 
Over the course of the last several millennia, more and more power and wealth have been concentrating in the hands of fewer and fewer people. In a very literal sense, this currently deprives the vast majority of the world’s population of the capacity to truly…
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