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Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication
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September 30, 2019  •  Article  
Some years ago, I was asked to write a review of a book about which I loved everything except the title: Toward a Socially Responsible Psychology for a Global Era.[1] What I most appreciated in that book was that psychologists were taking to task their…

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication
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September 30, 2019  •  Article  • 
Some years ago, I was asked to write a review of a book about which I loved everything except the title: Toward a Socially Responsible Psychology for a Global Era.[1] What I most appreciated in that book was that psychologists were taking to task their…
Deepening Relationships With Family
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September 30, 2019  •  Article  
It's important to remember how to find joy in the things we love about our family and friends. Though we often associate communication skills with handling conflict (see this post for a few tips), mindful communication is about so much more. It can deepen friendships,…

Deepening Relationships With Family

Deepening Relationships With Family
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September 30, 2019  •  Article  • 
It's important to remember how to find joy in the things we love about our family and friends. Though we often associate communication skills with handling conflict (see this post for a few tips), mindful communication is about so much more. It can deepen friendships,…
Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It
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September 3, 2019  •  Article  
It’s been a tough few weeks. Whether it’s another domestic shooting or the rainforest in flames, it can feel overwhelming to stay abreast of what’s happening yet impossible to turn away and unplug. Many of the people I meet these days aren’t sleeping well; they…

Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It

Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It
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September 3, 2019  •  Article  • 
It’s been a tough few weeks. Whether it’s another domestic shooting or the rainforest in flames, it can feel overwhelming to stay abreast of what’s happening yet impossible to turn away and unplug. Many of the people I meet these days aren’t sleeping well; they…
The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention
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August 8, 2019  •  Article  
Given all that we are facing today as a society and a species, the need to have honest conversations about things that matter is paramount. Communication skills are an essential ingredient in this arena, but I don’t think they’re sufficient. To stay balanced and clear…

The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention

The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention
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August 8, 2019  •  Article  • 
Given all that we are facing today as a society and a species, the need to have honest conversations about things that matter is paramount. Communication skills are an essential ingredient in this arena, but I don’t think they’re sufficient. To stay balanced and clear…
Starting and Maintaining an NVC Practice Group
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July 25, 2019  •  Article  
"How do I start a practice group?" "Do I know enough to run a practice group?" "How do I keep NVC alive in me?" So many people leave NVC trainings with enthusiasm and strong desire to keep deepening NVC within them. When we think of…

Starting and Maintaining an NVC Practice Group

Starting and Maintaining an NVC Practice Group
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July 25, 2019  •  Article  • 
"How do I start a practice group?" "Do I know enough to run a practice group?" "How do I keep NVC alive in me?" So many people leave NVC trainings with enthusiasm and strong desire to keep deepening NVC within them. When we think of…
Enemy Images and the Creation of “The Other”: Reflections on the New Zealand Mosque Shootings
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April 5, 2019  •  Article  
It has been several weeks since the massacre in Christchurch, which left 50 people dead. This deliberate act of astonishing violence was even more egregious as it occurred in a house of worship. In an instant, we were all taken back to Pittsburg and Quebec…

Enemy Images and the Creation of “The Other”: Reflections on the New Zealand Mosque Shootings

Enemy Images and the Creation of “The Other”: Reflections on the New Zealand Mosque Shootings
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April 5, 2019  •  Article  • 
It has been several weeks since the massacre in Christchurch, which left 50 people dead. This deliberate act of astonishing violence was even more egregious as it occurred in a house of worship. In an instant, we were all taken back to Pittsburg and Quebec…
The OA: An Allegory of Healing Trauma
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July 2, 2019  •  Article  
I try to stay away from Netflix series because I don't want to get hooked into them. An ongoing goal of mine is less screen time and more creative time. But Netflix is so darn comforting and understanding when the creative juices aren't flowing. So…

The OA: An Allegory of Healing Trauma

The OA: An Allegory of Healing Trauma
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July 2, 2019  •  Article  • 
I try to stay away from Netflix series because I don't want to get hooked into them. An ongoing goal of mine is less screen time and more creative time. But Netflix is so darn comforting and understanding when the creative juices aren't flowing. So…
Reckoning with Collapse: Living into Community from Warsaw to Stroud
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June 23, 2019  •  Article  
This post is the third and last in my May travelogue collection. Following the NGL (Nonviolent Global Liberation) retreat in Poland, eight of us, in various configurations, went on the road via van and train, offering various events over the course of sixteen days. This…

Reckoning with Collapse: Living into Community from Warsaw to Stroud

Reckoning with Collapse: Living into Community from Warsaw to Stroud
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June 23, 2019  •  Article  • 
This post is the third and last in my May travelogue collection. Following the NGL (Nonviolent Global Liberation) retreat in Poland, eight of us, in various configurations, went on the road via van and train, offering various events over the course of sixteen days. This…
The Practice of Mindful Communication
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June 17, 2019  •  Article  
There is one activity we each do every day, all day long, in every area of our lives—at home, at work, with friends, even when we’re alone. The success of our relationships, our work, and life in general rests heavily on it, yet few of…

The Practice of Mindful Communication

The Practice of Mindful Communication
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June 17, 2019  •  Article  • 
There is one activity we each do every day, all day long, in every area of our lives—at home, at work, with friends, even when we’re alone. The success of our relationships, our work, and life in general rests heavily on it, yet few of…
How Far Can We Go Together? Nonviolent Global Liberation Retreat, Poland
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June 2, 2019  •  Article  
This post is the second in my May travelogue collection. Some years ago, when the number of retreats and intensive trainings that I had led or co-led was well over 100, I stopped counting. Each one is its own unique configuration of purpose, players, relationships,…

How Far Can We Go Together? Nonviolent Global Liberation Retreat, Poland

How Far Can We Go Together? Nonviolent Global Liberation Retreat, Poland
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June 2, 2019  •  Article  • 
This post is the second in my May travelogue collection. Some years ago, when the number of retreats and intensive trainings that I had led or co-led was well over 100, I stopped counting. Each one is its own unique configuration of purpose, players, relationships,…
Five Steps for Maintaining Integrity and Compassion When They Don't Care How Their Actions Affect You OR Nonviolent Communication as a One-Way Street
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June 1, 2019  •  Article  
Sam, a software engineer, came to me recently, seeking to learn about how Nonviolent Communication might help him respond to a workplace situation that had become intolerable.  Specifically, Sam's boss, Tom, was assigning more work than could be reasonably completed in a 50-hour week, not…

Five Steps for Maintaining Integrity and Compassion When They Don't Care How Their Actions Affect You OR Nonviolent Communication as a One-Way Street

Five Steps for Maintaining Integrity and Compassion When They Don't Care How Their Actions Affect You OR Nonviolent Communication as a One-Way Street
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June 1, 2019  •  Article  • 
Sam, a software engineer, came to me recently, seeking to learn about how Nonviolent Communication might help him respond to a workplace situation that had become intolerable.  Specifically, Sam's boss, Tom, was assigning more work than could be reasonably completed in a 50-hour week, not…
Living Wealth: Provision, Romania
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May 22, 2019  •  Article  
This month, I am in Europe, in six different places. I am planning to write bits and pieces about the different parts of my tour. Here is the first installment: Robyn, Lars, Carsten and me in their kitchen Robyn is from the US and Lars…

Living Wealth: Provision, Romania

Living Wealth: Provision, Romania
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May 22, 2019  •  Article  • 
This month, I am in Europe, in six different places. I am planning to write bits and pieces about the different parts of my tour. Here is the first installment: Robyn, Lars, Carsten and me in their kitchen Robyn is from the US and Lars…
The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us
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May 5, 2019  •  Article  
Over the course of the last several millennia, more and more power and wealth have been concentrating in the hands of fewer and fewer people. In a very literal sense, this currently deprives the vast majority of the world’s population of the capacity to truly…

The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us

The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us
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May 5, 2019  •  Article  • 
Over the course of the last several millennia, more and more power and wealth have been concentrating in the hands of fewer and fewer people. In a very literal sense, this currently deprives the vast majority of the world’s population of the capacity to truly…
Transformative Dialogue
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May 17, 2019  •  Article  
Have you ever persevered through a challenging situation with a friend and come out the other side with more respect for one another? Or worked out a disagreement with a loved one, finding that you feel even closer, with more care and affection? Intimacy is…

Transformative Dialogue

Transformative Dialogue
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May 17, 2019  •  Article  • 
Have you ever persevered through a challenging situation with a friend and come out the other side with more respect for one another? Or worked out a disagreement with a loved one, finding that you feel even closer, with more care and affection? Intimacy is…
A Healing Work of Art
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April 24, 2019  •  Article  
You likely won’t be surprised that many of my close friends are therapists. What might be surprising for you is how we sometimes spontaneously do our healing work in the middle of a visit, and not always in the most private of places. Case in…

A Healing Work of Art

A Healing Work of Art
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April 24, 2019  •  Article  • 
You likely won’t be surprised that many of my close friends are therapists. What might be surprising for you is how we sometimes spontaneously do our healing work in the middle of a visit, and not always in the most private of places. Case in…
Restoring the Flow of Gifting in Community
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April 11, 2019  •  Article  
A little over a year ago I wrote a piece about how humans, historically, have broken off from the flow of energy and resources that the web of life both nurtures and relies on through the mechanisms of exchange and accumulation. I also included in…

Restoring the Flow of Gifting in Community

Restoring the Flow of Gifting in Community
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April 11, 2019  •  Article  • 
A little over a year ago I wrote a piece about how humans, historically, have broken off from the flow of energy and resources that the web of life both nurtures and relies on through the mechanisms of exchange and accumulation. I also included in…
Don't Just Feel Your Emotions
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April 5, 2019  •  Article  
Isn't it astounding that feeling emotions is so fundamental and essential to our humanity and well being and yet few of us were taught how to feel? Few of us were guided to notice the sensations in our bodies related to our emotions. Not many of us were shown how…

Don't Just Feel Your Emotions

Don't Just Feel Your Emotions
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April 5, 2019  •  Article  • 
Isn't it astounding that feeling emotions is so fundamental and essential to our humanity and well being and yet few of us were taught how to feel? Few of us were guided to notice the sensations in our bodies related to our emotions. Not many of us were shown how…
Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?
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March 19, 2019  •  Article  
In August 2018, at the end of one of the Nonviolent Global Liberation (NGL) retreats, the retreat team sat in the center of the circle and began to engage in a fully transparent process for distributing the money that people who participated contributed. I have…

Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?

Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?
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March 19, 2019  •  Article  • 
In August 2018, at the end of one of the Nonviolent Global Liberation (NGL) retreats, the retreat team sat in the center of the circle and began to engage in a fully transparent process for distributing the money that people who participated contributed. I have…
The Fearful Fetus and a Life of Ever-Deepening Connection
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March 13, 2019  •  Article  
As an NVC Trainer and practitioner, I've explored many alternative models of healing that complement and deepen my NVC practice. Not long ago I was a participant in an Ayahuasca ceremony and asked the consciousness of Ayahuasca to teach me more about the fear I…

The Fearful Fetus and a Life of Ever-Deepening Connection

The Fearful Fetus and a Life of Ever-Deepening Connection
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March 13, 2019  •  Article  • 
As an NVC Trainer and practitioner, I've explored many alternative models of healing that complement and deepen my NVC practice. Not long ago I was a participant in an Ayahuasca ceremony and asked the consciousness of Ayahuasca to teach me more about the fear I…
The Necessity of Joy
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February 28, 2019  •  Article  
Practice I grew up on the east coast, whose gentle hills and particular blend of evergreen and deciduous trees still soothes me. On the weekends, we would drive about two hours north to the Hudson Valley of New York state, where my grandmother had the…

The Necessity of Joy

The Necessity of Joy
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February 28, 2019  •  Article  • 
Practice I grew up on the east coast, whose gentle hills and particular blend of evergreen and deciduous trees still soothes me. On the weekends, we would drive about two hours north to the Hudson Valley of New York state, where my grandmother had the…
The Wounded Butterfly: Ongoing Transformation
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February 7, 2019  •  Article  
This article is written with They, Their, Them pronouns out of respect for those who don't identify with a particular gender.   With a supportive enough environment, children become adults who can create lives of their own. They find a career, a home, and manage…

The Wounded Butterfly: Ongoing Transformation

The Wounded Butterfly: Ongoing Transformation
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February 7, 2019  •  Article  • 
This article is written with They, Their, Them pronouns out of respect for those who don't identify with a particular gender.   With a supportive enough environment, children become adults who can create lives of their own. They find a career, a home, and manage…
Learning How to Listen
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January 25, 2019  •  Article  
Listening is a cornerstone of dialogue and a powerful metaphor for spiritual practice. When we’re willing and able to listen, we open a conduit that allows connection and understanding to happen. There are so many ways to listen. We can listen to the content of…

Learning How to Listen

Learning How to Listen
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January 25, 2019  •  Article  • 
Listening is a cornerstone of dialogue and a powerful metaphor for spiritual practice. When we’re willing and able to listen, we open a conduit that allows connection and understanding to happen. There are so many ways to listen. We can listen to the content of…
Interdependence in Action: How to Change Agreements with Care
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January 17, 2019  •  Article  
In 2004, a few days into the first of four week-long retreats of a yearlong program I was co-leading, one participant, who I will call Barbara, informed the program leaders that she was intending to leave the program after the first retreat, because it wasn’t…

Interdependence in Action: How to Change Agreements with Care

Interdependence in Action: How to Change Agreements with Care
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January 17, 2019  •  Article  • 
In 2004, a few days into the first of four week-long retreats of a yearlong program I was co-leading, one participant, who I will call Barbara, informed the program leaders that she was intending to leave the program after the first retreat, because it wasn’t…
Get to Know Your False Ego and Take Back Your Life
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January 9, 2019  •  Article  
Try this experiment: Choose your top three distractions, the things you turn to for comfort and entertainment but don't feed your soul - social media, TV/movies, comfort food, alcohol, extra hours at work, shopping, etc. - give them up for a month, and replace them…

Get to Know Your False Ego and Take Back Your Life

Get to Know Your False Ego and Take Back Your Life
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January 9, 2019  •  Article  • 
Try this experiment: Choose your top three distractions, the things you turn to for comfort and entertainment but don't feed your soul - social media, TV/movies, comfort food, alcohol, extra hours at work, shopping, etc. - give them up for a month, and replace them…
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